Happy belated Eid everyone :))
It’s been a while since my last post..and I’ve been meaning to post something for such a long time. I did bake a few things during this time, however due to time constraints and a busy schedule, I couldn’t take photos. I will be making those ‘goodies’ once again in a more peaceful time…and I will post them soon. Right now, I have a slight health problem. Turns out I have gallstones causing me an immense amount of pain :( Times like these where I can actually sit and write something have lately become rare…please pray for my speedy recovery…
Ramadhan has finished, and after the end of Ramadhan, muslims have a celebration/festival that marks the end of the month of fasting called Eid-ul-Fitr or Festival of Breaking the Fast (I guess) :)) There are two Eids in an Islamic calendar, and this is one of them. For this Eid, as I mentioned above, I did bake some things…however this post is not about food. It’s more about Eid, family, how traditions are with different families…and how traditions evolve throughout the years.
In the morning of Eid (the day right after the last day of Ramadhan) Muslims all around the world dress in their best outfits and get ready for Eid prayer. After the prayer, they take the opportunity to wish other muslims a ‘Happy Eid’. Then they go home and follow out their own individual family traditions.
Every family has their own culture for Eid. I know that mine does. We have been spending Eid in Saudi Arabia for a very long time and being away from our country and family made us develop our own traditions. My aunt (mom’s sister) lives in Saudi Arabia too. Every Eid, our two families would get together. I remember the excitement and happiness during those times. We would be up a large portion of the night preparing for the next day. Mom and aunt would be in the kitchen preparing the sweets (various Turkish sweets) for the friends that would visit the next day. We (my cousins and sisters) would be up tidying and decorating the house. The next day when the men would come home from Eid prayer, we would kiss the elders’ hands (Turkish tradition) and wish them a Happy Eid, and then we would prepare the first breakfast after Ramadhan….and my oh my…it would really be a huge and rich breakfast. But that first bite, or that first sip would be so hard, after a month of not having anything in the morning. After breakfast, we used to tidy up everything quickly and get ready for the ‘gifting’ ceremony :))
Here’s the thing, in my family, the parents would get gifts for all of the children. As we got older, we started getting gifts for the parents too. The grandparents used to give us a bar of chocolate or ‘cash’ :D
Oh and the whole year, parents would be preparing for these Eids, listening very attentively to anything we may have in our ‘minds” wish-list. So you get a gift and you open it and its exactly what you had been wishing for..or close :D And the children get accustomed to this at a very early age…when they see something they like, they start bargaining with their parents and say “ok, get it for Eid” :)
With the change in times, traditions evolved. Now we pretty much do the same things we used to…with a few slight changes. Eid-ul-Fitr these past few years falls onto the middle-easts’ summer months…August, September. There are many families that travel to their home countries during these months, including my aunt’s family. In addition, the family has quite a bit of additions to it, be it children or spouses. Since all the family members get together with the exception of my oldest sister who is living in Texas, my parents send her and her family their Eid gifts via technology…aka Internet ;)
My parents gift all of us, including the children; we gift my parents (meaning we all chip in and get them a gift), and we also gift the children. And lately dad has been adding an Eid allowance for us..or ‘Eidiyya’ as they call it around here..yaay :))
Then we start preparing for friends to visit. As tradition holds, since my parents are the oldest Turkish family within the Turkish community where we live, out of respect, family friends visit our house first. Before, the tradition was to serve Baklava or any other kind of syrupy Turkish dessert but you can imagine what a whole day of eating syrupy desserts can do to a persons blood-sugar and hunger level. Now with the change in time, a variety of items have been added to the Eid menu such as salads, boreks, stuffed vine leaves, and many many more.
After I got married, the events of my Eid have changed slightly for me as well…because I have to adapt to the traditions of Mohammed’s family (my in-laws) and find a way to balance both. Of course they’ve changed for Mohammed too..as he has adapted to my family’s traditions :)
The morning of Eid, we go to my father-in-laws house where we wish him a happy Eid. He has a tradition of serving rice with lamb, and everyone has to have at least one spoonful. We spend a couple of hours there, and then we head to Mohammed’s oldest uncle’s house where the whole family gather. The children are given ‘Eidiyya’ or money for Eid :)) We have lunch there, and we start our 1-hour journey (if we’re lucky) to my parent’s house in Saudi Arabia. During this time though, we miss the events at my parents’ house…the big breakfast, the gifting ceremony, and some of the visits…so they put our gifts aside and take loads of picture to show us how it went.
Those are some of the events of Eids for my family and in-laws :))
Next Eid is in about two months…and the planning has already started ;))